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Ananya10

One Surprisingly Simple Solution to Catch Liars...

Getting the sense that someone may be lying to you is one of the worst feelings in the world. It's something aweful to dwell on, and sometimes it's important to step back and evaluate the situation for what it is. Therein, it's important to know: What's the one thing to do to catch someone in a lie? In short: Ask the liar to elaborate.

I recently had an encounter with an old desperate woman who is a legend in her own sick psychopath mind, I asked her to elaborate on her lies & she started cussing and accusing me.  Obviously I had touched a soar spot

It's often tempting to assume that a lie is innocuous; indeed, everyone tells little white lies, and there are times when these non-malevolent fibs actually aren't a big deal. But if you feel that your trust is being disrespected, you owe it to yourself to hear the truth — and sometimes that means pressing for more details to get to the bottom of things.

First, though, a (hopefully obvious) disclaimer: Even if you're pretty sure someone is lying to you, it's never OK to snoop through their phone or  confront them in a way that's threatening or makes them feel unsafe. If someone's not being honest with you, you have every right to be upset — but you can't actually  force someone to tell you anything, even if you're pretty positive they're lying to you. I know that's a tough one to swallow, but it's important to keep in mind. Believe me the force will cause them to lie even more.

So what can you do to catch someone in a lie? Well, when people are lying, they (generally) have a story prepared; they reasonably anticipate needing to clarify a certain amount of detail based on what questions they think you'll ask, & then form a story that answers those questions but provides little other information.
If you ask for clarification, there's a mighty big chance the person lying will repeat the same story again and again... so it's consistent, but not offering more information.

Here's what to do instead: Ask not for clarification, but for elaboration. Seriously — it can be that simple to break someone's lies, for example   having people tell their story backwards; if you're lying, it takes a lot of mental gymnastics and awareness to not catch yourself up in the details once you're no longer telling the story according to the script you've previously worked out.
Another way is also framing the questions as open-ended and allowing plenty of silence and room for the person to answer you without encouragement or you filling in the blanks.

Why this technique works has to do with what liars look for in our reactions to them. Often when people are lying, they're paying attention for positive affirmation that you believe what they're saying: Things like nodding, smiling, and filling in pauses with phrases like "Oh, you're so right" or "I know what you mean." These are normal reactions to hearing a story in general, but if someone is lying, they're likely looking for those things in particular to confirm that their lie is working.

If you're suspicious & hold out on doing those things, the person lying may begin to crumble for two reasons: Not only is their brain working hard to fill in the holes of their story, but moreover, they can't tell if you're buying it or not.

Now, if someone isn't actually lying, they should be able to tell their story in a different order or fill in additional details without much of a fuss. However, if someone isn't actually lying & you absolutely grill them over what is, in the end, a small thing, it's possible they'll become annoyed with you. That's why it's important to go into this approach knowing that you may not get the answer you're looking for.
You can't force the truth out of people, particularly if they're already telling you the truth & you just don't like what it is. If you suspect someone is lying to you, though, the best you can do is press them for more honesty and hope they respect you enough & value your relationship enough to be truthful.

HAVE A HAPPY EVENING

Srinivas1939

Is the idea to reform the liar or expose him.Either way a congenital liar will never give up and simply move on to another gullible listener.

Ananya10

No the idea is to protect own self esteem and recognize the people u must stay away from!!! Let him do whatever he wants to i will care for my own self!!

Ananya10

Srinivas1939 27-8-2018 06:54 AM
Is the idea to reform the liar or expose him.Either way a congenital liar will never give up and sim ...

Thanku for reading my 1st post and replying to it!!!


No the idea is to protect own self esteem and recognize the people u must stay away from!!! Let him do whatever he wants to i will care for my own self!!

Slit69

Couldn't agree more with the approach.

It is hard not to think about Donald Trump when reading your post. When he lies he lies in very general terms. The few times he is with a journalist that asks him to elaborate he can't. He just repeats the same story. He won't elaborate because he knows the story will quickly fall apart and expose the lie - easier just to repeat the same story over and over.

One small suggestion to your second post: "Let him/her do whatever he/she wants to i will care for my own self!!

Mousetrap

Good idea though expert liars are so good at the game that it's difficult to corner them! Sharpening your own intuition is the only way to recognise and stay away from such people.

Ananya10

Slit69 28-8-2018 01:54 AM
Couldn't agree more with the approach.

It is hard not to think about Donald Trump when reading your ...

Suggestions and thoughts are very much welcome!!

Ananya10

Slit69 28-8-2018 01:54 AM
Couldn't agree more with the approach.

It is hard not to think about Donald Trump when reading your ...

Nice observation about Mr. Donald Trump. I like yiuryobservation power

Ananya10

Mousetrap 28-8-2018 11:05 AM
Good idea though expert liars are so good at the game that it's difficult to corner them! Sharpening ...

Yes very well said! Do guide yourself and share it with your friends!! Keep giving new suggestions!

Ananya10

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